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Jehovah’s Witnesses Decry Marriage Restriction

Published on April 14, 2014 by   ·   90 Comments

Cyriacus Izuekwe

Some Jehovah’s Witnesses have decried the restriction on them not to marry Christians of other denominations. Members of the church are barred from marrying Catholics, Anglicans, Baptists and members of all Pentecostal churches, among others.

According to the Witnesses, marrying non-members is seen as immoral and contrary to the teaching of their church. Thus, such union is strongly discouraged and attract religious sanctions. Any defaulting member who marries outside the congregation is excommunicated and treated as a non member.

Some of the members, especially the unmarried ones, who spoke with P.M.NEWS but did not want their names mentioned, expressed concerns that they have limited choices to make as they cannot marry outside their church.

They said as a result of the marriage restriction, many of them could not marry on time or are forced to marry spouses they are not compartible with in the church.

Confirming the marriage restriction, a senior teacher of the church, Elder James Etop, told our reporter on Sunday that the decision was taken in line with Biblical injunction and members of the church have obligation to comply with it or not.

He said the church cannot compel its member to obey the directive but would not attend such wedding or honour the union.

Etop explained that Jehovah’s Witnesses and members of other churches do not share many fundamental beliefs and if members are allowed to marry outside the church, their faith would be affected.

He said there are many contradictions between the teachings of Jehovah’s Witness and other churches, including issues about heaven and hell fire.

Etop said other churches believe that when they die, they would go to heaven contrary to the teaching of Witness, who believes that Earth is the paradise they would inherit when they die.

“For instance, there is nothing like hell fire as propagated in many churches. Hell fire was mentioned just as an illustration by Jesus Christ when He was saying the parable of Lazarus and the rich man in the Bible. If a member marries such a person who believes in such doctrines which is against the teaching of the Witness, it will definitely affect his or her faith.”

Meanwhile, there were reactions from some leaders of other churches on the marriage restriction.

They said such teaching by the church was like turning the Bible upside down.

Pastor Frank Osemele of God’s Hand Delivery Ministry and Prophecy said such teachings are strange and contrary to the Biblical teaching.

He said once one believes in Jesus Christ and the Bible, such a person is a Christian and therefore segregation among Christians is not what Jesus taught His followers. He also said there is Hell Fire and quoted the Bible in Revelation Chapter 19 verse 20 and Revelation chapter 20 verse 10 to support his claims.

Osemele urged that such teaching should be disregarded by members because it was only meant to cause confusion among Christians. Prophet Jide Ogunshola of the Celestial Church of Christ also advised members of the church to disregard such teaching because it did not come from God.

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90 Comments for “Jehovah’s Witnesses Decry Marriage Restriction”

  1. The teaching on disfellowshiping came from the bible itself. The apostle Paul’s direction to the Corinthian Congregation. You can read about that here[search_id[search_id]=762d0789-bbb8-43d6-ac99-d2d027e064d4&insight[search_result_index]=6]=81963457-fa01-4a5c-a985-2152a99a0cc2&insight[search_result_index]=2 , and decide for yourselves, so it was not something JW’s pulled out of thin air to control people. We follow Jehovah God’s directions and thus receive his blessings.
    Second just a simple reasoning, if you wanted to know about Jesus would you ask Judas who betrayed him ofcourse not! So asking someone who hates or finds fault with what the bible teaches is not the answer. Jehovah Witnesses welcome any and all questions about their faith and beliefs and thus have a dedicated site where you can search questions about their beleifs yourself and find biblical answers.
    Third for this fact alone it makes them no cult for a cult is a secretive society like the Masons or Lodges who have secret rituals. Those who hide what they truely are.
    Jesus said at Matt 24:14 this good news about the Kingdom must be preached to all the nations, so do you as Christains go out to Preach from door to door and city to city like Christ did and directed this work so read about it here in your own bible;
    So finally how can you tell who has the Truth or who is serving Jehovah God in Spirit ans Truth, well ask yourself does you Church promote pagan celebrations like holloween, easter and Christmas which deciples nor Christ himself ever celebrated or promoted? Is the Church divided by political parties when Christ said his followers are no part of the world so pay Cesars things to Cesar like paying taxes and obeying laws? Does your Church allow immortality and lifestyles that God himself condemns and still will destroy mankind for? Read this at 1 Corinth 9:12 or read it here. .

  2. This is just the truth from the bible and remember only those who hated the truth and served Satan wanted to stop and hinder Christ and his disciples!
    Who do you serve Jehovah God or Satan the Devil, figure it out before it is too late. One more simple reasoning if you yourself would not burn uour son or daughter if they disobeyed then why would you call the God of Love cruel. God told Adam in Genesis 3:19 from dust you are and to dust you will return, nothing was ever mentioned about eternal torment thus living forever, only Satan told Eve that if she disobeyed God she would not die thus live forever. Only followers of Satan beleive God is cruel to keep you alive to torment you. If you are dead without a chance of resurection you have met your final end and nothing else is needed. Psalms 115:16 says heaven belongs to God and Earth he has given to man. Palms 37:10, 11 says the wicked will be no more and soon the righteoous will inherit the earth and vs 29 says they will remain forever! Visit your nearest Kingdom hall and guess what you will not see? There will ne no collection pan being passed because no one is paid. Jesus said you reveived this gift freely so give it freely. Just ask the next Jehovah Witness that knocks on your door to show you these bible truths from the bible and you will be set free from Satan’s lies! The Truth is so beautiful! Visit

  3. anonymous

    Wow, pm news needed the attention and they got it…well this site ll get some traffic today…
    Why don’t u guys just shut up and go about ur business!

  4. Mr Hart

    Please can somebody tell me how is going to be possible if A member of JW marry a Catholic, or any of the white garment. tell if them want to pray as a husband and wife, are going to use rosary or red candle to pray? but JW prays without the aid of candle or rosary..

  5. La Verite

    So you mean Jesus is superior to God? Stop confusing people with your wrong arguement. Please do more research on the name of God (Jehovah) and the reason why some Bible translations omitted that name.

  6. Alex

    The teaching of Jehovahs witnesses is highly base in d Bible and also dey follow Jesus christ Example, just as Jesus said in the bible Book of John dat his not part of the word Jehovahs witness imitate dat example and dat is why they are different in anything they are doing getting married to worldly or a non witness is not part of them. Talking abt hell, Hell is not a bible teaching. Did Jehovah God said that he is going to destroy the world with Hell???? Where is it in d Bible? Talking abt wat a brother said abt Jesus and Lazarus, dats an illustration. Hell fire was mentioned just as an illustration by Jesus Christ when He was saying the parable of Lazarus and the rich man in the Bible. For Example, If I marry anyone dat is not a witness definitely is going to affect my faith. So Jehovahs witness strongly imitate d example of Jesus Christ by not being part of the world. 08068189963


  8. abdulahi

    They are the most peaceful group………………..Check their profiles and compare to other religious groups………….

  9. 'Bola IGE


    I carefully and thoroughly went through some comments above and I could see how frustrated people are. No wonder, Jesus said “I am a good shepherd. I know my sheep and my sheep knows me. John 10:14;” He also said his sheep listens to his voice….John 10:27.

    I am not here to judge any congregation (Matthew 7:1) but I am here to make some contributions that will add value to the lives of many. My wife was once a member of Jehovah Witness. I so much love her that I visited their meeting and assembly at Ota. I could not trace or find the spirit of God in that gathering; however, Jesus said those to worship his father must do so in Spirit and in Truth. John 4:23-24. God is spirit and those in flesh will never please Him Romans 8:8.

    1 Corinthians 7:39 “A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.”

    In Paul’s letter to the Corinthians, he says that the Christian widow should marry “in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 7:39). Some have suggested that the language, grammatically speaking, is adverbial, thus modifying the verb “marry,” rather than being adjectival, i.e., identifying the status of the marriage partner. The meaning of the phrase, then, is supposed to be that she is to marry in harmony with the Lord’s will, i.e., in such a way as to not surrender her faith.

    Therefore, God commanded us to marry in the same faith but each congregation has no jurisdiction to sanction any of its member that marries other religion faith. Religion is an individual task but one still needs to be very careful not to fall to the prey.

    How do you know the best place to worship God? Search through google for every church humble beginning. How did the church start? What and what were their shortcomings? God can never say A and turn it to B. God’s Yes remain Yes without adding No. Search for your church history and to know if you worship God in the right place. Also, any church that is being controlled by flesh not spirit should be discarded and such person should try as much as possible to leave the church.

    Finally, there is Heaven and Hell Fire. The Islam too believes there is Heaven and Hell Fire and the Bible back this claims.

    Verses on Heaven, Hell Fire and Hope for Everlasting Life
    Romans 2:6-8 – Who will render to every man according to his deeds: (Read More…)

    Revelation 21:8 – But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

    James 2:20-24 – But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without works is dead? (Read More…)

    2 Thessalonians 2:15 – Therefore, brethren, stand fast, and hold the traditions which ye have been taught, whether by word, or our epistle.

    Revelation 21:1-27 – And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea. (Read More…)

    2 Thessalonians 3:6 – Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us.

    Matthew 25:41 – Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:

    1 Corinthians 11:23-27 – For I have received of the Lord that which also I delivered unto you, That the Lord Jesus the [same] night in which he was betrayed took bread: (Read More…)

    1 Corinthians 11:1-2 – Be ye followers of me, even as I also [am] of Christ. (Read More…)

    John 13:36 – Simon Peter said unto him, Lord, whither goest thou? Jesus answered him, Whither I go, thou canst not follow me now; but thou shalt follow me afterwards.

    John 6:58 – This is that bread which came down from heaven: not as your fathers did eat manna, and are dead: he that eateth of this bread shall live for ever.

    John 6:53 – Then Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except ye eat the flesh of the Son of man, and drink his blood, ye have no life in you.

    Revelation 20:10 – And the devil that deceived them was cast into the lake of fire and brimstone, where the beast and the false prophet [are], and shall be tormented day and night for ever and ever.

    1 Peter 3:18-22 – For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit: (Read More…)

    James 2:25-26 – Likewise also was not Rahab the harlot justified by works, when she had received the messengers, and had sent [them] out another way? (Read More…)

    Hebrews 9:27 – And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:

    1 Corinthians 1:10 – Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all speak the same thing, and [that] there be no divisions among you; but [that] ye be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment.

    John 20:19-23 – Then the same day at evening, being the first [day] of the week, when the doors were shut where the disciples were assembled for fear of the Jews, came Jesus and stood in the midst, and saith unto them, Peace [be] unto you. (Read More…)

    John 3:13 – And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, [even] the Son of man which is in heaven.

    John 3:5 – Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and [of] the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.

    Luke 1:47-48 – And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour. (Read More…)

    Matthew 9:6-8 – But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power on earth to forgive sins, (then saith he to the sick of the palsy,) Arise, take up thy bed, and go unto thine house. (Read More…)

    Revelation 20:14 – And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.

    Revelation 19:20 – And the beast was taken, and with him the false prophet that wrought miracles before him, with which he deceived them that had received the mark of the beast, and them that worshipped his image. These both were cast alive into a lake of fire burning with brimstone.

    1 John 5:16-17 – If any man see his brother sin a sin [which is] not unto death, he shall ask, and he shall give him life for them that sin not unto death. There is a sin unto death: I do not say that he shall pray for it. (Read More…)

    James 2:1-5 – My brethren, have not the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, [the Lord] of glory, with respect of persons. (Read More…)

    2 Timothy 4:7-10 – I have fought a good fight, I have finished [my] course, I have kept the faith: (Read More…)

    1 Corinthians 13:1-6 – Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become [as] sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. (Read More…)

    Romans 11:19-22 – Thou wilt say then, The branches were broken off, that I might be graffed in. (Read More…)

    John 6:67 – Then said Jesus unto the twelve, Will ye also go away?

    John 6:50-71 – This is the bread which cometh down from heaven, that a man may eat thereof, and not die. (Read More…)

    Luke 16:1-31 – And he said also unto his disciples, There was a certain rich man, which had a steward; and the same was accused unto him that he had wasted his goods. (Read More…)

    Revelation 22:3 – And there shall be no more curse: but the throne of God and of the Lamb shall be in it; and his servants shall serve him:

    Revelation 21:1 – And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea.

    Revelation 3:20-21 – Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. (Read More…)

    Revelation 2:11 – He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches; He that overcometh shall not be hurt of the second death.

    1 Corinthians 5:7 – Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:

    John 4:24 – God [is] a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship [him] in spirit and in truth.

    Luke 23:43 – And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, To day shalt thou be with me in paradise.

    Matthew 25:46 – And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

    Matthew 6:9-13 – After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. (Read More…)

    Genesis 19:24 – Then the LORD rained upon Sodom and upon Gomorrah brimstone and fire from the LORD out of heaven;

    1 John 3:2 – Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is.

    Romans 6:23 – For the wages of sin [is] death; but the gift of God [is] eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

    Romans 1:18-22 – For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness; (Read More…)

    John 14:2-3 – In my Father’s house are many mansions: if [it were] not [so], I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. (Read More…)

    John 14:2 – In my Father’s house are many mansions: if [it were] not [so], I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.

    John 3:2 – The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him.

    Luke 24:1-53 – Now upon the first [day] of the week, very early in the morning, they came unto the sepulchre, bringing the spices which they had prepared, and certain [others] with them. (Read More…)

    Luke 23:2 – And they began to accuse him, saying, We found this [fellow] perverting the nation, and forbidding to give tribute to Caesar, saying that he himself is Christ a King.

    Luke 8:1 – And it came to pass afterward, that he went throughout every city and village, preaching and shewing the glad tidings of the kingdom of God: and the twelve [were] with him,

    Mark 9:1-50 – And he said unto them, Verily I say unto you, That there be some of them that stand here, which shall not taste of death, till they have seen the kingdom of God come with power. (Read More…)

    Psalms 16:11 – Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence [is] fulness of joy; at thy right hand [there are] pleasures for evermore.

    2 Kings 2:11 – And it came to pass, as they still went on, and talked, that, behold, [there appeared] a chariot of fire, and horses of fire, and parted them both asunder; and Elijah went up by a whirlwind into heaven.

    Genesis 19:1-38 – And there came two angels to Sodom at even; and Lot sat in the gate of Sodom: and Lot seeing [them] rose up to meet them; and he bowed himself with his face toward the ground; (Read More…)

    Genesis 1:20 – And God said, Let the waters bring forth abundantly the moving creature that hath life, and fowl [that] may fly above the earth in the open firmament of heaven.

    Revelation 20:6 – Blessed and holy [is] he that hath part in the first resurrection: on such the second death hath no power, but they shall be priests of God and of Christ, and shall reign with him a thousand years.

    John 14:1 – Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.

    John 3:16 – For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

    Job 1:6 – Now there was a day when the sons of God came to present themselves before the LORD, and Satan came also among them.

  10. Dan Johnson

    So you wouldn’t serve a God who specifically told you not to marry outside the congregation but you WOULD serve a God who would sentence a Jewish or Muslim boy or girl to an eternity of hellfire because they didn’t accept Christ? That makes no sense at all!

  11. VinnyT

    JWs (including their own little children) are told they cannot take blood transfusions in situations where they might need one, such as through accidents or complications with surgery, pregnancy or child birth etc.

    So, naturally, more JW’s will DIE.

    Just like this mother died unnecessarily!

    And now her husband has no wife and her two new twins have no mother.

    And all for what?

    Or this teenager that also DIED:

    This is very simple. JW’s NEEDLESSLY die for this sorry blood policy today.

    From the same organization that has an entire 100 + year history of similar bad and embarrasing policies.

    Please read my own detailed examinations about the JW blood policy. As a 15 year active and Zealous person for Jehovah (and elder) here is my own story:

    And an even more comprehensive list of reasons why the JW blood policy is just plain wrong, written afterwards:

    So in summary then, when I add up all of the facts:

    That blood transfusions are not the same as eating blood.

    That Jesus himself clearly emphasized the value and importance of “MERCY” and “LIFE” over the unnecessary “Sacrifice of Life” at Matthew 12:1-14

    That the scriptures themselves are always referring to the “Eating or Drinking” of ANIMAL blood that is forbidden (not transfusions).

    How Paul shows at 1 Corinthians. 8:4-8 that the Acts 15:29 command is not all encompassing command but had a particular purpose.

    That Saul’s men were not killed after eating blood.

    How the Strictest of Jews today (not allowing ANY BLOOD in their foods, demanding Kosher instead), DO Allow blood transfusions to be taken.

    That no other religion on earth forbids blood transfusions based on what the bible actually says.

    That Jesus clearly demonstrated how life (even that of an animal) was more important than a narrow, strict interpretation of the law, with the “animal that fell into a pit on the Sabbath” illustration he used, and the “Woman with a flow of blood” real-life example.

    How the one donating blood is a LIVE donor (not a dead animal) and offering this blood to another person that is ALSO alive and in need.

    That the Watchtower Society was COMPLETELY WRONG before about forbidding vaccinations and organ transplants for many years, and then actually REVERSED these decisions now allowing BOTH. Many loyal Witnesses nonetheless died from such stands coming down as ‘FOOD FROM GOD’. They were clearly wrong then and are wrong again.

    This is the SAME Watchtower Society that also predicted and announced IN WRITING that the end of the world would come on 1914, again 1925, would probably come in 1975, and also promised the end would come before the generation of 1914 passed away (even had it quoted in each Awake masthead before dropping it in 1995), stated it would come within the 20th century and even MORE. Jehovah’s Witnesses truly are know the world over for their false predictions.

    And, the Society has now changed its position on Blood ONCE AGAIN, instead of saying no to all blood, to now say “fractions” of blood are acceptable, even though the particular fractions approved and disapproved seem to have no particular rhyme or reason and we are still not allowed to donate blood nor store their own. Though they can use cow’s blood (Hemopure).

    It seems fairly easy for me then (and most open-minded think people), to come to the conclusion that they simply cannot support the JW position on blood transfusions.

    Did ((( GOD ))) make all of these terrible decisions to force on all the JW’s as “food at the proper time”, and then change his mind later on?

    Or was is just a bunch of MEN, that make up the Governing Body of Jehovah’s Witnesses (sitting up in some Brooklyn office somewhere) making these poor decisions, FORCING them on all JW’s and then afterwards conveniently change their mind?

    Which is why I simply left the religion.

    And now, because I walked away, they all are demanded to shun you for life (including your own family).

    Which is why if I can help some honest hearted people by sharing my own story, it truly is a worthwhile thing to do.

    Please examine, examine, examine and ask as many questions like this as you can!

    Take care!


  12. Jess

    Hi to all!
    I apologize if the article above has given you a bad representation of what truly happens inside the Jehovah Witness organization. If you are truly curiouse and wondering in what we believe in please visit then go to the about us tab.

    We promote good family values that are found in the bible, and as to marring outside of the religion there is no repercussion that would get you to be disfellowshipped but you will suffer the consequence in the future with your spouse. You don’t have to be a Jehovah Witness to understand that a marriage with two religion can add extra baggage and make it difficult for the unity of the family.


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  15. Every thing you say is true. If a couple want to get married, that is the business of the State. If both come to the Kingdom Hall, that is fine. There is no shunning for that. Sometimes the outsider comes into the faith.

    We don’t make our own rules. It is the Bible that says, (2 Corinthians 6:14) ” Do not become unevevenly yoked. with unbelievers.” It is quite clear that that is Jehovah’s way of doing things. One sister who married outside ot the Truth, said that she has had the loniest life that there is. She can’t express herslf on spiritual matters. God’s way is always the best.

    Being a teenager in the Truth is a challenge to a young person. The world stresses satisfying sexual urges is most important. There are all kinds of programs that arouse ones desires. By putting Jehovah first is the most imortant thing and it lasts forever to Jehovah’s name and honor and glory.

  16. Opeyemi

    Jehovah’s Witnesses members are not aware that they are not Christians.
    The bible Teaches about the Holy Spirit. do they believe and have the Holy Spirit in them? The Bible teaches about the rapture. do they believe that also? Has Rapture taken place? Let them answer these and many more, then they will understand that they are not at all Christians!

  17. Ron

    I have been a JW for 60+ years. Watch out for the comments of ex-Jws because they most often have an axe to grind or are bitter because their life course has been less than the high standards of JWs in general.

    Never forget that people only tell you what they want you to know and in looking at ALL of these statements negative to the JWs, my personal experience can attest to the fact that they are misinformed, bitter, out right liars, who knows. Speak to any current JW and he/she can help you to get the truth.

  18. Isabella Botticelli

    @Fred. With all due respect, you are not aware of the definition of “cult.” It doesn’t mean people who dress funny and live in a commune. A very brief description would be, any group that restricts or forbids freedom of thought or choice. If you look here, you will see larger description. You can even Google “how to identify a cult” and you will come up with organizations that specialize in cult dynamics.

    As I mentioned previously, I was a JW for over 40 years, in fact, I used to sound just like you. But what I’ve observed and experienced is nothing like the sugar-coated fluffy description of JWs you get at But let’s go there, what about disfellowshipping. What constitutes a disfellowshipping offense? According to, “a baptized Witness [who] makes a practice of breaking the Bible’s moral code and does not repent…” However, the majority of DF I observed, had little to do with repentance, and many who were repentant were DF anyway. Contrary to the claim, former members have noted being disfellowshipped/shunned for any of the following reasons:

    • being a victim of rape
    • having diseases such as Alzheimer’s or schizophrenia
    • leaving an abusive mate
    • revealing the secret life of church leaders (elders)
    • associating with a disfellowshipped family member, including minor children
    • merely disagreeing with and/or challenging the religion by asking questions
    • being a child raised as a Witness who later chooses not to join their parent’s religion (baptized or not)

    Before you try to deny what I’ve said, I want to ask you something, how many DF people have you talked to? Isn’t it true that JW do NOT ALLOW you to talk to DF people, under threat that you will be DF yourself? That’s why when we tell people the real story being being DF, JW always call us liars. They just parrot whet the Watchtower says, that is, to treat any who have left JWs, for whatever reason, as mentally diseased people who are Satan worshipers! Isn’t that what your talk at the 2013 Dist.Conven said?

    If you care about yourself and your family, you will research your religion outside of JW publications. I wish you well

  19. Ben

    I am still wondering: What does it mean to “not marry in time”?

    Please go to for more NON-WITNESS information regarding the use of blood transfusions.
    Bloodless surgery is now regarded as the “gold standard” due to the faster recovery times and lower costs compared to using blood which has a higher mortality rate, higher risk of infection and longer recovery times.
    I believe the JW’s hold the Bible as being the only inspired word of God, why then would they do “research” using material that does not use the Bible as it’s reference material?
    Why would someone talk to an “ex” member of ANY organization to form an opinion about it? Is it not wiser to talk to current members, who have possibly not yet formed bitter and biased opinions?

  20. Ben

    This article is about marriage.
    The Israelites were forbidden to have relationships with the surrounding nations because it would contaminate their faith.
    God has not changed – Malachai
    Marriage with non-witnesses would result in one becoming “unevenly yoked with unbelievers”. (2 Corinthians 6:14).
    We are told to “Marry only in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 7:39).
    As has been so painstakenly pointed out by most people on this forum, Jehovah’s Witnesses do not share the same beliefs as other “christian” religions. It is not appropriate to then say that marriage with another “christian” is permissable.
    Everyone must carry their own load when it comes to serving God. If people are feel that they must go outside of the JW organisation to find a suitable marriage mate then they must also be willing to accept any negative consequences associated with that choice. If I choose to break the speed limit and get punished for it, does this make the law not fair and harsh, or is it my own actions that are at fault?
    God’s commands are not burdensome and most JW’s will tell you that they are not.

  21. Isabella Botticelli

    @Ron. So, you have personally spoken to many exJW? No, you haven’t. You are not allowed to speak to ex-members. What ‘ax to grind,” what bitterness? Yes, some are angry, especially those who have been victims of child abuse or other abuses. Why wouldn’t they be angry when their pain is swept under the rug, while the pedophiles are protected? And have you polled the millions of exJWs and asked them what their life is like now, away from JW? What personal experience are you referring to? And what lies do they tell? Your comment is word-for-word from the Watchtower, they tell what you must say to anyone who does not agree with your religion.

    Perhaps you should take a course in critical thinking, Ron, it will teach you to avoid making such Ad hominem statements – attacking the person rather than dealing with the facts, by resorting to name-calling and bad motives of all people who have ever left your organization.

  22. ess-ay

    Two things,I suppose, worry PM News: Dearth of investigative stories from correspondents and an editor or editors who have an ax to grind with the witnesses.In the year 2009, the paper went to town with an headline:”Jehovah’s witness man kills neighbor,”only to have it in the body that the said ‘Jehovah’s witness man’ was a Russian (in Russia).
    Now, the paper says it spoke with witnesses who’re not satisfied with marriage restriction imposed by the organisation. One wonders if such members ever exist and if they are leashed in the kingdom Halls like some dog.

    To be sure, witnesses realise that Jehovah views them as free moral agents who will personally be held accountable for his actions and inactions before the true God.Also the Bible is an open book to them and they are admonished to prayerfully read and meditate on at least a page of the Bible daily.
    Even if they are disfellowshipped, they are eager to change from taking a false step as stipulated in the Bible.
    On the issue of Hellfire, picture a man who sinned for his entire 70 or even 100 years of existence,only to be tormented in fire by the God of love, with his one finger burning for a thousand year! Can a reasonable person do that to his bad dog??? The wages sin pays is death,says the Bible.Perfect human pairs,Adam and Eve, committed the most grievous sin and their penalty was death,the Bible never says otherwise.
    Kingdom Halls are open to all and diligent study of God’s word is the creed.

  23. Dalek

    Biblically, a Christian is free to marry any other Christian.  The problem arises because JWs think they are the only true Christians. Their elitist-separatist attitudes were condemned by Jesus in Mark 9, Matthew 7, and John 4 and many other texts.  Yes, Christians differ over interpretation of doctrines, but all are still Christians and express the Christian ideal in various forms–philanthrophy, morality, healing ministries, creation ministries, pacifism, evangelism, spirituality, orphanages, disaster relief, drug-recovery, and so forth. This is all important work. No one has the absolute “truth;” no one is “all bad.” There is no such thing as defiling oneself with Babylon the Great through inter-marriage.  Early Christians understood the great harlot to be the Roman Empire. In the fourth century Bishop Athanaseus changed the meaning of the great harlot to mean all heretics against the church. The JWs have adopted this religious meaning for Babylon to suit their agenda.

    Marriage, besides being a human right is above all a God-given right and no man should trample on these rights and deprive others of them through the misapplication of scripture.  JWs are fond of using Jewish texts to support their marriage taboos. But did not Solomon have God’s blessings for over forty years while being married to two pagan wives?  It wasn’t until he began to multiply wives (against the code) that he incurred disfavor. Furthermore, there is no proof that JWs are a special nation for God as Israel was. It’s a fairy-tale.

    Truth be told, not all JW marriages result in bliss; there are many firsthand accounts of JW marriage fiascos on the internet. Read them for yourselves. Contrastingly, not all JW/non-JW unions end in bitterness and disappointment. That totally depends on the individuals involved. But it will be extra challenging for anyone who is in a high-control group like JWs to be able to interact normally with another Christian. 

  24. Dalek

    Not necessarily. There is a lot of inconsistency in how the body of elders in the different congregations operate throughout the world. There is also a group dynamic that distinguishes them and their various congregants. You’ll hear different stories from different halls. Some are high-control congregations, some are live-and-let-live congregations.

    No, there is no disfellowshipping “rule” for marrying a non-believer. You can read that for yourself in the Elder’s manual, which is now online. But there is a particularly barberic “marking” penalty for anyone dating a non-believer. That means no socializing outside of door knocking and no privileges. So, you’re as good as disfellowshipped except you can be greeted. If someone is disfellowhipped while dating, perhaps they fornicated. That has nothing to do with dating an unbeliever. Quite a few jw couples fornicate before marriage only they don’t tell.

  25. Dalek

    “But it will be extra challenging for anyone who is in a high-control group like JWs to be able to interact normally with another Christian.”

    The amount of time spent in meetings, field service, and meeting preparation alone will be tantamount to spousal neglect or abandonment.  I have seen this happen more than once and it is a hurtful thing to watch.

  26. Beautycherry

    @Cryriacus Izukwe,,,,,deep down in heart,u know that u are writing lies against JWs..u can lie to anyone but u cannot lie to urself. Come to think of this,why JWs?-why dont u write about other denominations because i know they are not better,,we all have heard bad if not worse stories of other denominations,including their false teachings,but we act like we dont see them or know about them, because all display the spirit of the world governed by satan the devil- 1john 5:19.
    the world hates JWs,just as Jesus told them, because they have refused to be a part of the world just like Jesus Christ their Leader-john 17:16
    Do u know that Jesus is the first witness?-rev 1:5,,,do u know that they are a cloud of witnesses,both in the heavens and on earth?-heb 12:1-wouldnt u like to know the list of them?-if u are not a witness of Jehovah God,whose witness are you?-Satan?-
    Please give us some space and think about your relationship with God and how u can maintain it because that is what you need,we all need,to get eternal life,,
    Now coming to what you posted;

  27. Beautycherry

    JWs do not restrict her members from marrying outside the organization,,,they simply,willingly and lovingly obey Jehovah’s command at 1cor 7:19, Deu 7:3,4 and Neh 13:26…Do u see God’s loving directions as restrictions?-could u please truthfully tell us why Jehovah specifically warned the israelites against marrying from other nations?-can you tell at Neh 13:26,what made solomon leave worshipping the true God?-
    No witness is forced to obey because we possess the gift of free will,free to choose right or wrong, but we choose to obey because we love and appreciate Jehovah’s loving direction knowing that He’s the Only One who’s got the right to guide us,we know that it is the right and modest thing to do to save oneself from experiencing the ugly side of marriage,,,That is not attracts no discipline from the congregation,although the individual will lose whatever priviledge he’s got in d congregation,,the individual’s reminded of the consequence of marrying outside and the blessings of marrying in the lord,,,the individual’s to make his choice,,
    I have friends who didnt marry witnesses but with the help of the congregation and God’s word,they are able to manage their marriages,,,,,those that u interviewed are not true JWs,just like their Father,the Devil,they didnt stand firm in the truth because they never loved the truth- John 8:44

  28. Beautycherry

    Thats a wrong sentence, James Ethop didnt confirm your false story,he simply told you what really the witnesses do; no one’s forced to obey,,
    Since Frank Osemele of God’s hand delivery ministry and prophecy calls himself a pastor,he should make out time to ‘study’ not to ‘read’ his bible because i know that just confessing ‘i accept Jesus as my lord and personal saviour’ is not enough to make one a christain,a true christain for that matter,,proving in deeds is what makes one a true christain- james 2:14,17,18,20,21-26
    Probably i should go marry a thief or a drunk or a politician because he says i love God and Christ or im a christain

  29. Beautycherry

    @Dalek,,,,,,we do not think Dalek,we know that we are the only true christains,,as an organization,by their fruits,it isnt hard to recognize them for individually,we are imperfect just like every other person in other denomination,prone to make mistakes- matt 7:16-20,,rom 5:12
    I dont see any point in your cited scriptures,, Dalek,just as we have fake money and real money,there are fake christains and true christains and i’m certain that you wouldnt want me to be unevenly yoked with a fake christain,even if we are not friends…so ‘marry only in the lord’ make a whole of sense and safeguard us from heartaches
    If we fond of using Jewish texts to support our marriage taboos,what about 1cor 7:39?-what do you have to say about rom 15:4?-
    Our all-wise God wrote that because He wants us to learn from the experiences of His servants of Old,,
    To u,its fairytale but we got proofs- Isa 43:10,12,,44:8, john 15:27, acts 1:8,,,Dalek and to everyone here,iam proud to be a Jehovah’s Witness,,witnssing about Jehovah gives me true joy,true satisfaction and true peace of mind, do u find real joy,satisfaction and peace of mind in what u do?
    No Dalek,truth be told,not all marriages result in bliss because all marriages are imperfect but heeding God’s counsel makes it enjoying,,,from your writings,God’s commandments are burdemsome to u,,christain activities do not stop on from taking care of his marriage,its all about been balanced,,

  30. Delilah

    I was a JW for many years, and I dated some really great guys, but the pickins were slim and I wasn’t going to sit around and be like some of the women who cleaned houses and waited on Jehovah for a mate. I fell in love with a really great guy, wanted to marry him but his domineering got in the way. I was much more “worldly” than she liked. She didn’t like me phoning him, etc. I finally left him because of his weird mother. I fell in love with a guy who wasn’t a Witness and we married years ago. Still married, and I’m no a longer a Jehovah’s Witness, THANK GOD!

  31. meme

    This article is not true… It does not follow that marrying non-members is seen as immoral and Any defaulting member who marries outside the congregation is excommunicated and treated as a non member. IF you have sex outside marriage then that is immoral and if you marry a non believer you will get counsel but you will not be excommunicated and treated as a non member unless there are other factors involved such as immorality.

  32. The Bible says to marry “only in the Lord” – this Lord is referring to Christ Jesus. JW’s do not consider themselves disciples of Christ, but rather, Witnesses of Jehovah. Accordingly, this scripture does not apply to them, because they are not by their own definition, Christian anyway.

  33. Jesus said that people would be hated on account of HIS name, not the name of Jehovah. So, this being considered, perhaps the world hates you because of your elitist attitude toward those who have a faith outside of the walls of your Kingdom Hall. Jesus did not describe his disciples to be Witnesses of Jehovah, he said “you will be witnesses of ME” – “Feed MY sheep” etc. I cannot see where the JW’s even fit into the picture here. Unless you taste of my flesh and drink of my blood, you have no life in you…” Jesus said that as well. Have you done this lately?

  34. John 6:44 states that God would draw people TO His Son, and not to himself. This being considered, do you feel drawn to Jesus, or the organization that you belong to? What you are doing is idolatrous, in attaching yourself to the importance of religious affiliation, and not to the relationship that true Christianity is founded on – a personal relationship with God starts at Jesus, not your religion.

  35. Anonymous

    @Dennis,,,,u dont even know what you are saying,,God will draw people to HIS son,,Who made His son?-who gave Christ that authority?-Why was he given that position?-John 17,,,who did Jesus witness about?-what made Jesus position relevant?-why would Jesus reply Satan using the words matt 4:4,10,,Why was Jesus called the Faithful witness?-what do you think the name Jehovah’s Witnesses mean?- Pls read Jesus words at John 17:3,,matt 22:37,,Rev 4:11,,
    Truth: Worship Jehovah God through Jesus Christ because he died for our sins opening the way for us to have a good relationship with God,,,simple,,pls try to think before you write,,its not compulsory to comment

  36. Anonymous

    You write out of hate,,,Jesus was able to say that because Jehovah God made him the head of the Congregation-1cor 11:3
    Could u pls explain rev 14:6,7,,why was the angel witnessing about God and not Christ or did he forget about Christ?-
    What does it mean to witness about Christ?-could u pls read 1pet 2:21,,being Christ-like still means you worshipping Jehovah because all his life on earth including now he is in the heavens,it is still Jehovah’s will he is doing not his own will,,
    One of the things Christ did was Witnessing about Jehovah
    Come to think of this; If Jehovah God did Create Christ,would you have known Christ?-if Adam did not sin and if Jehovah did not place Christ name above all except himself,would u have known him?-
    As our Creator,it is right & modest to be His witnesses just as Christ was and still is and just as Jehovah has said at Isa 43:10,12,,u cant change that
    Also take the time to read the preface in to your bible so as to know why people desist from using the name Jehovah or you could make reseaches on it,,
    Psalm 83:18- how else would people know about Him if they are not witnessed to about Him,,,
    If i may ask; how many of christ’s way of life do you imitate or do you just profess to be christain?-
    Im so happy to know that Jesus is called the faithfu witness, not of himself but of Jehovah God,,,,this you CANNOT CHANGE

  37. Beautycherry

    @Dennis,,,,u dont even know what you are saying,,God will draw people to HIS son,,Who made His son?-who gave Christ that authority?-Why was he given that position?-John 17,,,who did Jesus witness about?-what made Jesus position relevant?-why would Jesus reply Satan using the words matt 4:4,10,,Why was Jesus called the Faithful witness?-what do you think the name Jehovah’s Witnesses mean?- Pls read Jesus words at John 17:3,,matt 22:37,,Rev 4:11,,
    Truth: Worship Jehovah God through Jesus Christ because he died for our sins opening the way for us to have a good relationship with God,,,simple,,pls try to think before you write,,its not compulsory to comment

  38. Beautycherry

    At rev 14:6,7,,,why did the angel forget to add Christ?-without the creation of christ by God,without adam’s sin,without Jehovah’s reward of placing his name above all names except his,you would not have known Christ, you would’ve still worshipped God without christ,,we recognize him because of the role he played,,imitating christ’s equal to worshipping God because throught his life on earth, he worshipped,witnessed about and prayed to his father,Jehovah,for assistance,, since you are a christain,which of his way of life are you imitating?-truth u cant change,Jesus is a Witness,and Jehovah has called us that too- rev 1:5,Isa 43:10,12,,
    Psalm 83:18, john 17:6,7-if we dont witness about Jehovah and if Jesus didnt witness about God, how will people know and Worship Him?-

  39. Beautycherry

    Christ has been living his life to please Someone but who is Jehovah God living to please??

  40. Dork in the Dark

    How can the Watchtower group of Jehovah’s Witnesses take a strong moral position on wedding within their own group – the JW meeting halls – regarding wedding only another JW, when they are morally repugnant on other, far more serious themes.? (Also, the bible verse ‘marry in the lord’ or another Christian, not ‘get married to a JW’).

    That cult, which it is, has a less than anaemic position on their inordinate child abuse & grossly ineffective handling of the pedophilia within their organisation.?
    They also joined the U.N. the United Nations, got caught 6 weeks after New York got attacked by passenger planes, & they tried to get out of it by saying that “they applied in an NGO capacity”.
    Which is like saying ‘I burgled a house, broke the law outright, but I was going to give some of the proceeds to a good cause, some needy person or family short of cash’. Breaking the law is the main integer, any excuse is lame & is an insult to the intelligence.

    The JWs is a nepotistic, power-play soap opera in many parts of the world, and any positive reputation they may have enjoyed went decades ago. Promoting marriage internally is to up their numbers not support biblical scripture.

    They are a child abuse group that has predicted the end of the world umpteen times. It is full of a users, both female & male.

    They have no right to be a vanguard for a verse in the bible.
    Watchtower or Jehovah’s Witnesses is a cult. Relocating their offices & business premises. Hardly a priority in timeline or as regards helping others. The orphan & the widow.

    Wholly, Exposed as fakes, and very much in denial. I know them, it’s a club of charades. They are not interested in each flock member or their welfare. People defend them, but people defend all sorts of heinous & strange things & causes. That doesn’t make it valid and true. Or worthwhile. The ‘governing body’ are in Africa a lot are they.?

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