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The Growing List Of Failed Marriages In Nollywood  print

Published on May 31, 2013 by   ·   24 Comments

Chika Ike

Laide Bakare: Opted out of her marriage

Eucharia Anunobi

Fathia

Monalisa

celebrities of failed marriages

In some parts of the world, Africa in particular, Nigerian movies reign supreme, and the actors are semi-gods. With their repertoire of popular movies, they have undoubtedly mended cracks in the union of some viewers, but then, many of their own marriages have been characterised by heartbreaks, separations and divorces.

They have made their way into the hearts of millions of people, who dream to be like them. But either at home or abroad, there is one thing none of their fans will pray for —failed marriages and heartbreaks.

This development seems to be more rampant among the movie stars. While some of them have remained eligible spinsters/bachelors, those that managed to walk down the aisle barely sustain the momentum. The list of movie stars with failed marriages is endless, and with the recent decision of actress Laide Bakare to walk out of her marriage to Mr. Okunfulire, the last has not been heard.

Laide Bakare, after about three years of denying that there are cracks in her matrimonial home, has eventually walked out of her marriage. In the early hours of 3 May, she officially announced through her publicist, Folorunsho Hamsat, that her marriage has hit the rocks.

Laide Bakare: Opted out of her marriage

Laide Bakare: Opted out of her marriage

The official statement from her publicist reads thus: “We would like to announce to the general public on behalf of Nollywood star actress, Laide Bakare, that she has officially opted out of her relationship with Mr. Okunfulire, her former husband.

“While it lasted, the actress showed the utmost level of maturity, in spite of the ‘glaring injustice’ from her former husband. Laide has endured the marriage with Mr. Okunfulire for whom she displayed total affection. But things fell apart when she discovered that she was indeed married to a man with a legally married wife and two children not a single man she thought he was as told her by Mr. Okunfulire when the relationship started.

“But, being a celebrity who has become a model to young persons in the society, coupled with the need to exercise decorum, she has kept fate with the marriage until lately when she could no longer continue and then called it quits. Her former union with Mr. Okunfulire produced a beautiful child, Similoluwa who is nicknamed Chelsea.”

The Yoruba actress also announced that she has moved on by settling down with another man, Mr. Tunde Oriowo. She claimed that her relationship with the latter began late last year, a development that has been criticised.

Barely a week after this announcement, Mr. Okunfulire, who is based abroad, opened a can of worms in an interview with a soft-sell magazine. He claimed that Laide is still his wife, though there have been cracks in their marriage because “she sleeps around.” Okunfulire added that he only learnt of his wife’s statement on the purported breakup on social media.

Laide Bakare’s sordid tale is just one of the numerous heartbreaks and marriage break-up scandals in the movie industry.

Many female entertainers in Nigeria are victims of this. It is either they have a broken marriage or don’t even have one at all. Some of them have blamed it on the society. They claimed that most Nigerian men have low self esteem, and cannot differentiate between their woman’s real character and make-belief. They argued further that an average Nigerian man will not be comfortable with his wife, fiancée or girlfriend, as the case may be, being smooched by another man in a movie.

They also blamed the media. The media, according to actress Benita Nzeribe, has broken many celebrity relationships with their sensational gossips. “No mother would read such scandalous stories and still allow her son to marry such lady. The media is not helping matters. The most painful aspect of it is that most of the things they write about us are not true.”

But Asiwaju Benson Akindeju, the producer of television dramas –Family Ties, Face-2-Face and Nowhere To Be Found, opined that the female entertainers, actresses in particular, should work more on their personality, rather than blame the society or media for their inability to get married.

Akindeju said the problem is more complex than what most people can imagine. “I think the problem starts with their inability to manage stardom. They could be humble at the initial stage of their career, but the moment fame comes, they tend to lose everything, forgetting that no matter the situation, an African man would always want to command respect from his wife.”

He added that most of them are so arrogant that they can’t even listen to simple corrections on set. “I have had cause to walk some of them off  my set for insubordination. Most of them cannot manage stardom and it is a big problem. They always forget that nothing lasts for ever. If you are the best actress today, someone must surely take the baton from you tomorrow. So whatever you manage to achieve within your active reign is what you will live to remember. No matter her fame or achievements, a woman without a husband cannot be regarded as a successful person.”

Having played roles where they teach viewers many lessons about marriage and relationships, one would simply imagine that these actresses have one of the best homes or relationships, but the reverse is obviously the case.

The list of Nollywood actresses facing marital challenges seems to be endless. While some have tasted broken marriages, others have continued over the years to be eligible spinsters, and it has become an issue of growing concern. Many of the marriages break up on grounds of infidelity and battery.

Chika Ike

Chika Ike: Lost her marriage to infidelity and assault

Chika Ike, one of the most beautiful Nigerian actresses, got married to Tony Eberiri in 2006, but a few years later, the union hit the rocks following allegations ranging from infidelity to assault. The actress, who filed for divorce, said in an interview: “I have a lot of friends who would have left their marriages but because of the African society, their in-laws, what people will say or other factors, they stay. We’ve heard a lot of deaths caused by bad marriages and before the death, there would have been signs, things would have been happening leading up to that. I think it has to do with age and many other things like compatibility and not being true to yourself in the marriage. Everybody has a limit. There are some things in marriage that you might not be able to stand. Some people’s limit might not be my limit. My limit might be somebody’s starting point.”

One of the most shocking was that of Fathia and Saheed Balogun. The much celebrated union hit the rocks over  multiple allegations of infidelity, and efforts by influential personalities in the country to settle their differences fell on deaf ears.

Eucharia Anunobi

Eucharia Anunobi: Quited over constant battery

Actress Eucharia Anunobi, who is now a pastor, called it quits with Charles Ekwu, the father of her son, Joshua, a few years after they got married. Eucharia cited constant battery by Charles as the reason she pulled out of the union. But it was actually Charles that first walked out of the relationship. He actually abandoned the actress and her son.

At the tender age of 15, Shan George got married and after bearing two kids, she walked out of the marriage at 21, alleging that her husband couldn’t send her to school but rather turned her into a punching bag. After she graduated from the University of Lagos at the age of 29, she has tried to get married on two occasions but all to no avail.

Clarion Chukwurah is no doubt one of the most talented actresses in Nigeria. She had been married twice; first to the brother of the late Bashorun M.K.O. Abiola and later to the Oduneyes, but at the moment, she is a single mother.

Popular actress, Ayo Adesanya moved out of her matrimonial home over alleged battery by her hubby, Goriola Hassan, who later blamed Ayo’s unfaithfulness for his actions. The hitherto rosy relationship hit the rocks amid controversy.

Frequent crisis, irreconcilable differences and incompatibility wrecked the four-year old marriage of actress Foluke Daramola to ex-hubby, Mr. Adebowale, though she is now married to Kayode Salako.

Fathia

Fathia

Ibinabo Fibresima, the National President of the Actors’ Guild of Nigeria, AGN, is among female entertainers with failed marriages. The Okrika, Rivers State-born actress has experienced two failed marriages that produced two children.

Monalisa

Monalisa

Actress Monalisa Chinda accused her ex-husband, Dejo Richards, of battery and she moved out of her matrimonial home. The union was blessed with a daughter. The list of the industry’s personalities with failed marriages include Bimbo Oshin, Doris Simeon, Kate Henshaw, Moji Olaiya, Fred Aseroma, Emem Isong and Peace Anyiam Osigwe to mention a few.

Sultry actress, Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde is one of the few lucky actresses that have enjoyed a good marital life. In an interview, she identified the inability of her colleagues to “draw the lines between their profession and family” as the reason behind many failed marriages.

According to Omotola, an average African man will not compromise the level of respect he gets from his spouse, and as a result, the woman, irrespective of her status or class, must give due respect and time to her family.

The multiple award-winning actress cited that for instance, “when you see me outside, I’m Omo Sexy, the movie star. But at home, I’m the humble and obedient wife and mother. The moment you fail to realise this, there is likely to be a problem in your relationship.”

—Bayo Adetu

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24 Comments for “The Growing List Of Failed Marriages In Nollywood”

  1. ogbeni naija

    It is Noollywood actresses tradition to marry and divorce because they are immoral & using voodoo and witchcraft.Their eyes are big,one man cannot satisfy them because they are possessed.

  2. Olu

    Omotola you have said it all

  3. Larrydan2200

    Mrs Omotola has said it all,most of d nollywood actresses re so much full of demselves thereby failin to realise d difference b/w their home&screen.

  4. shinesunny65

    The reason celebrities marraiges crash is because of ego on the part of the actresses.women dont give respect to their husband if they are making the same money as him.they feel big to even cook,wash the dishes,their hubby clothes,sweep and come home late.Men dont batter their wives if she doesnt make a derogatory remarks against him.women nags lot and are bad mouthed.They even cheats more than men.Are all the ladies we see in brothel and strip clubs not people’s wives and girlfriends.All these are factors that lead to their marriage breakup.

  5. naubiko

    Why is it always the fault of the women and not the men. This African mentality of always blaming the women is a bit old and medieval. Why is the attention not on the men marrying several women as well.

    • shinesunny65

      Naubiko,the reason men marry more than one wife is because women are desperate to marry.They want to get pregnant so that the man will marry her.They also want the man to drive the first wife so that they will take over.ladies also like dating married men because they are more generous with money than bachelors

  6. asewo ni won se jeun jooooo!!!!!!.

  7. Posterity Wil not forget these actressess.The common fault in most African actresses is that they find it difficult to be submissive and humble.Let these uncultured actresses go and learn what The bible mean that the desires of a woman wil be under her husband.They need deliverance.Akwuna ga ebe akwa nwa na ura nka.

  8. kings

    Most Nigeria women lack submission and this has caused breakups in their homes. Omotola has said it all.

  9. Joseph Olarewaju

    House Wives begin to have problems in their homes once they change their behavoural status from being house wives to that of unattarched ladies who just want to do things her own way not submissive and not giving her husband the deserve respect.Those women think their husbands are just symbolic

  10. sunday madu

    ‘A wise woman build her house but a foolish woman will tear it down with her own hands’ says the Holy Book.
    ‘By wisdom a house is built and by understanding it is filled with precious items’
    Building a viable marriage is hard work but rewarding. It requires that you accept responsibilities which is a mark of maturity.
    Marriage is not flaunting your cleavage or wearing Brazilian hair!
    Stop this nonsense self acclaimed ‘movie star’ rubbish and go and build your homes. It’s a non- transferable responsibility

    • Babayin

      Sunday Madu, I wish i have ur cell no. You comment is concise, classic and instructive.
      Honestly, my take is that Men should ask for God guidance before picking a wife, Nollywood or no Nollywood. Most of the girls on the street today are not marriable. They are too materialistic.They are just good as sex-mates. We pray for God interference in all our affairs in Nigeria.

  11. ms ohio

    marriage is for women who can not feed themselve, it is a place you have to look like a slave. you have to obey the rule, you are ordered to go to the market , when you come back , you are to cook , and serve the food to this person call husband, and when he finished eating , you will be the one to clear the table and you wash all the place , tidy up the kitchen. Then, you both go to bed by 10pm, this man may not allow you to sleep throughout the night, he may want to do up to six to seven times, it is getting to 5 am, you are about to sleep off , this man, woke you up, shouting at you ,why are you still sleeping ,go and prepare my breakfast , so , you forgot i will go to work, all these preasure is the one that was causing divorceI .I think, if you have money to feed yourself , you do not need to marry , what you need is a part time husband , keep him away , let him come and go back to his house , his housekeeper and a cook will nurse him. you do not need to give up your freedom ,and make yourself a slave just because you want live your life with someone.

    • Lizzy

      Ms ohio, i don’t blame u bcos u r a prostitute!… Ashawo!!… Harlot!!!…

    • Festus

      Ms ohio,you are entitled to ur own opinion about marriage but may i remind you that the concept of marriage is not to enslave anybody.To marry someone is a personal decision and you have to abide by that decision.God said for this cause shall a man leave his father & mother and cleave to wife and the two shall become one.I want to ask you how many servicing men do you want to get in your lifetime,stop being selfish,accept responsibility,that is the beauty of life.

  12. ada

    those ladies are professional prostitute. just imagine Eucharia Anunobi being a wife…

  13. OPE OLASUNKANMI

    Many of the failed marriages are borne out of the inability of people to realize their compatibility status. COMPATIBILITY do not only make people realize their status, it also aid the growth or vice versa of their marriages. In the case of Nollywood, most men should realize that the ladies needs support and not battering. MAY ACTRESS FUNKE AKINDELE NEVER EXPERIENCE FAILED MARRIAGE ooo…In Funke, we believe!

  14. Hon okorare

    he the gods wants to kill must be made mad first dat is why opening of thier bodies to the public is nothing to them and u expect to be hapi

  15. OGBENI NAIJA

    @Omotola you are not better, were you not the one another man used his hand to pack & wrap your ass in California USA during award winning event (on internet)? So what make you different from others is it because your vodoo is working for your man? I beg go sit down, you are all witches.
    Don’t mind them, they are been deceived with their artificial beaut and akaun & alum they use in washing the thing to make is strong to deceive men who are their victims

  16. Marriage broken is a recognized culture in nig nolywood.pls don’t mind them wit their shambles character

  17. Ify

    These celebrities are full of themselves. They get into marriage just to produce a child and nothing more . They think money is everything. but they seems to forget that a woman without a husband is worthless. i respect Chioma Chukwuka because she is a wife material.

  18. STELLA

    One thing you people should bear in mind is that ,no marrige is easy but if u can be able to tolorate ur patner i belive it will work out for u.

  19. The issue of marriage among young men and women of nowadays is not build on respect for each other but build on money. No matter your profession, always remember that you are married and your spouse expect respect, integrity and holiness from you. Most married couples never consult their spiritual fathers for prayers and counseling before jump into marriage. Immaturity and inexperience of the couples also cause most divorce. Another diver-stating factor is ex-boy friends and girlfriends. As a young married man or woman, you marry so that the instinct of sex is rightly directed. Lack of fear of God is the over all factor for divorcing each other and jumping from one sex partner to another. Even those pretend keeping their marriages as actors and actresses can they swear to Nigerians that after their marriages they have not met another man or woman for sex?

  20. Kelly Bruce

    I think is about time we become mature and more civilised when it comes to issues concerningmarriage. All these comments are pertinent but sound a bit misogynistic. The issue about family life I suppose is entirely a subjective phenomenon. There is no how you can benchmark the performances based on external criteria. Have you put in place personality differences stardom or no stardom. People deal with issues differently. Being so judgemental or one sided to me is an uncivilised behaviour. Pls young people, try and get a very sound education to at least refine your African and Asia genetic lack of sense of rationality heritage when it comes to issue concerning women. If African men will do less of inherited macho pride, be more convivial rather than dorminant, tyrannical and oppressive in relationships, I think their wives will reciprocate accordingly cos women have this divine trait of being very caring and loving if treated better.

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