22nd November, 2011
Good to be back after a long break. Okay girls, as you know, I talk about issues that are very important to us, but are less discussed. Being women, we take a lot of things for granted and we easily believe what they tell us. As women, we are always conscious of our looks and want to be admired, not just by own friends and fellow women, but the opposite sex.
But in our effort to be admired, we have made certain mistakes and fallen prey to a good number of predators out there. How many of us believe men the moment they say they are in love with us? How many of us have fallen for someone we just met in a party, never talked to only to be told he admires us? How many of us believe love is a gradual thing and needs no rushing?
It might interest you to know that no matter the level of his spirituality or exposure, the thing, the first thing in a man’s mind the moment he sets his eyes on you is that three letter word, SEX. The moment a guy sets his eyes on you or even speaks with you over the phone or the internet, he begins to imagine how good you will be in bed.
When a man meets you for the first time and says he loves you, he is saying he loves what you have on and in your body; don’t be deceived. Like a friend recently told me, real men fall in love with a lady mostly for three things- Intellect, beauty, and ability to engage them. When a guy sees you in an aircraft or party and goes ahead to tell you he loves you, he is simply saying one thing, “I love what I see and can’t wait to get in there,†it has nothing to do with your inner being.
Another thing you should also have in mind before falling for that cheap trick is this; in this generation, we rarely have men who can keep secrets. Our men are now worse than women when it comes to the use of their tongue. I say this because I have a lot of male friends and I will advise you fellow ladies, don’t be too sure he has not talked about you.
A friend told me how another guy, on seeing their mutual friend enter a restaurant with his woman, told him how he slept severally with her. He said he felt like slapping him because that he slept with her doesn’t mean she is a bad girl or that she is unfaithful to her new man. But girls, this is the case with our men.
Most of our so called big boys are nothing but empty taps and I implore you to avoid giving your body to them just for the dirty cash in their pockets. Our politicians happen to be the most randy because they have money they never worked for. If all you want in life is money and fame, please go on falling for every Tom, Dick, and Harry. But if you are interested in a good name then you have to be wiser than you are at the moment.
Kiss and tell is the order of the day among men. Even some of our ladies are not left out as they are now too shameless to talk about their sexcapades. A married woman I know shamelessly opened her mouth in public telling people she must sleep with Tuface; what a shame to womanhood.
I was with my cousin in Port Harcourt when one of his politician friends came in. This guy was getting text messages from a girl who is a pimp. The girl was busy sending nude pictures of different girls showing their boobs, vagina, and bum. He was laughing very loud and when my cousin asked to know what it was, this dirty politician showed him the blackberry.
A commissioner friend recently told me how, during their executive meeting, his colleague was transferring his phone for people to feed their eyes with nude pictures of some girl. We keep seeing a lot of things on the internet; I know a good number of them are photo shop technology, but that doesn’t change the fact that some are real.
A girl I know too well sent terrible pictures of her vagina and others to a man on Skype. She didn’t know I have a work relationship with this man who doesn’t have any regard for Nigerian ladies. When I asked to know why he speaks of Nigerian women the way he does, he forwarded nude pictures to me. To my surprise ladies, the girl happened to be my friend on Facebook.
For the sake of your name and interest, have a relationship with a man who respects and loves you. No matter the amount of money that guy has to offer you, avoid the temptation of giving your body to a very irresponsible man. Life is not about the designer shirts and good looks they wear, there is more to life.
What do you gain from selling yourself so cheap and using those filthy words to lure a man to bed? A girl I know too well who parades herself as a journalist on Facebook does a lot just to have a man sleep with her for money. She doesn’t know this, but her name is all over the place now with men narrating their experiences with her. According to one of them, she does not fail to tell any man who talks with her that she can give them her “toto†(so she calls it) for money.
You keep sending different nude pictures to men just to have them sleep with you for money. Have you taken time to ask yourself what he does with your pictures? The fact is that any man who asks you to send nude pictures to him is saying just one thing, “You are a cheap whoreâ€. Don’t be misled into thinking those nude pictures are for his eyes only; he shares them with his friends.
All your runs on Facebook are open to the public. Even when as a married woman you do terrible things on Facebook with a false identity, they know you. That same man who plays along with you is the one sharing your stories and pictures with everyone.
There are better things to do with your blackberry and internet. People are on the internet making good money in a very clean way and there you are shamelessly revealing your vagina and boobs to anyone who cares to have it for a fee.
Have it in mind that what that man says before you is totally different from what he says behind you after the whole game. They praise your semi-nude pictures on Facebook and tell you how much endowed you are; the story is different once they leave your page.
Even if you don’t want to think about now, what happens if you get married tomorrow only for your husband to walk into his friends house and see some nude pictures of his wife?