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Published on July 22, 2011 by   ·   28 Comments

Amara

There is no disputing the fact that men, no matter how spiritual they claim to be, are visually oriented. To get a woman, just get her continuously engaged in a discussion for some time; if she goes on listening to you, you will have her. But they say, and it is true, that women are stronger than men when it comes to emotional matters. This is because it takes just a little effort on the part of the woman to get a man.

Great men have continuously fallen by just the sight of a beautiful lady. This is true even when I know you are not in total agreement with me. Men are moved by sight and this is one major reason nude clubs are flourishing in Nigeria.

Sometime last year, the Lagos State government under the leadership of Governor Babatunde Raji Fashola, embarked on mass closure of all nude clubs in Lagos State. Many people condemned this action, and even when they regained their freedom after a short while, it was something commendable. I know it was going to help a lot of homes.

It won’t be easy deciding to close down these nude clubs because majority of their patrons are those in high places. Some men are so into it that they can no longer end their day without paying them (the nude clubs) a visit.

A friend told me how he saw a very old man in his 80s laughing out so loud that people there saw him as a fool. To his amazement, the man’s son was seated right beside him. This is what our country has suddenly turned to; immorality is now seen as civilization.

What will make a married man leave his office or house to go and see some naked girls? You do this on a daily basis without seeing anything wrong in it. I stand to be corrected, but I can authoritatively say that anyone who runs such a business is not responsible.

You are looking at it from the angle of money making; have you looked at it the way children and women look at it? Have you sat down to think of the uncountable number of homes you have destroyed? Have you taken some time out to think about children with tears on their eyes and broken hearts because their father virtually lives in your nude club? Have you thought about the young girls wasting away because you pay them to abuse their body before some group of useless men? You are running the business and making your money; I hope you live to enjoy the fruits of your business.

Let us look at some of the negative effects of these nude clubs on the society. There is so much moral decay in our society today that we now call evil enjoyment. When men go to nude clubs and see young girls with their boobs intact and some of them with Beyonce kind of bum, what do you think becomes the reaction of the man after?

There is every possibility of the man picking up a girl either from the club or on his way out. He may not have it in mind, but nature remains powerful. There is no way you can go in there and come out with your nerves at peace.

When those nerves down there get aroused by you, you must do any of these three things:

•Pick up a prostitute or any available girl on your way out

•Masturbate

•Get home late to wake up your tired wife for sex.

When you get yourself to the level of picking up call girls on the road, then you have a very big problem. But can you really avoid this? The moment you form the habit of visiting those nude clubs, you begin to see girls as nothing but play toys. This makes you feel there is no need for an intimate relationship with a woman when you can actually get a quickie. This marks the beginning of the end.

Masturbation is another negative effect of this kind of patronage. If you are too decent not to pick a girl on your way out, the whole video begins to play in your subconscious after you might have left the place. You will lose control of your mind that you begin to play with yourself while fantasizing. And you know the negative effects of masturbation. If you don’t know, please ask those who were into it or better still look for my article-Men and Masturbation.

You don’t get home till 2am because of naked girls. The poor woman slept off after a long wait. The next thing you do is to wake her up for sex when you know she must wake up early the next day to get the kids ready for school and then go to work. The most painful part of this is that you are having sex with her with the picture of another woman, the stripper, in your mind. How I wish the woman understands what you now call her— a sex toy.

Another negative effect of your visit to nude clubs is that it gradually takes you away from your loved ones. How do you think your children feel having daddy come home very late at night when they are fast asleep? What role has your visit to those naked girls played in your relationship with your children? Your wife is now in perpetual pain because she has suddenly become a widow while her husband is alive.

You are gradually destroying your home. Your children and wife are being pushed far away from you. I hope you don’t stand to complain when it’s already too late. Remember, you will not remain young and vibrant forever. A day will come when you start looking for them and crying out in pain for their companionship, but they will be nowhere close to you because you created the part they are following. They will soon get used to living without you.Think again and make amends before it becomes too late for you.

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28 Comments for “Men And Nude Clubs”

  1. segun

    Whao Amara this is wonderful. The only thing i will say is for god to continue to give you wisdom on all this issues. Keep it up God bless you

  2. Naubiko

    Rhyme and reason to stay away from Nude clubs…Well said.

  3. Sulaimon Ala-Adamolekun

    U got it right.Importation of Negative foreign attitude and culture is our major problem in Nigeria and Africa at large.

  4. FEMI

    GOOD TALK.. AGREED ITS BAD TO VISIT SUCH PLACES. BUT WAHT ARE THE REALISTIC ALTERNATIVES. IF THE WIFE LIKE YOU SAID AND IT HAPPENS IS ALWAYS TIRED. ALSO WOMEN ONCE THEY ARE OVER FIVE YEARS IN MARRIAGE THEY NEGLECT THIER BEAUTY , LIKE YOU SAID MEN ARE MOVED BY SIGHT. THE MAN IS NOT BLIND , HE MOVES AROUND SEE FINE GIRLS THE REST IS HISTORY. I EXPECTED YOU NOT TO SPARE THE DRESSING OF LADIES,YOU DONT NEED TO VISIT A NUDE CLUB TO SEE NUDITY

  5. aunty, i beg to differ on some of your conclusions here.no man will go to a nude club and then go back to his wife. didn’t he see his wife nude at home before going there? he was looking for something else besides here, that’s what led him there in the 1st case.and the things they do there are not to be talked about.maybe if you can visit incognito, it will help you to write better. you will see 1st class evil.

  6. AdeOla

    Amara you articles are always fantansic, frank and downright inspiring. You combine beauty with intelligence in concise thought-provoking expression.

    But sincerely speaking, don’t you think these clubs are actually necessary as avenues for occassional psychological get-away/relief for some men in this country who might have been unfortunate to get stuck with wrong women as wives or some who might have irretrievably failed in securing a blossom relationship ? Just musing.

  7. Steve

    Very well researched and put together Amara. But are we sure this evil is limited to men alone? Are we not aware that lesbians could also delve into the same fantasies and disgrace?

  8. Abbey

    Amara, thanks once more! i recently stumbled on your numerous articles, and wow they keep reechoing in my mind. Majority of Nigerian Businessmen has sacrificed morals for greed and getting rich by all means. Funny enough, they keep their own children ‘at a safe distance’, using their ill-gotten wealth to train them. some to US and beyond, thinking that God will not ”visit the sin of the father on the children”. most of these children ends up as drug addict, cultist and super prostitutes. THE EVIL THAT MEN DO!

  9. Amara,Nigerians are not corrupt to that extend that you are placing it, hahaha can you go to LOME TOGO? WEST COAST,BOURKINAFASO OR ABIDJAN AND YOU WILL SEE…

  10. We all enjoy to read a very interesting article that goes down to touch our emotion like this one from Amara.But my question to every body is that, how many Nigerians can sincerely cast their eyes and minds away whenever a beautiful lady appears? You may agree with me or not,IT’S NOT EASY even women know that this is true. Lady Amara is doing a very good job to groom pple most especially men but preaching of moral in our society has become a daily obligation done by inspired pple sent by God either in the mosques,churches or on the media.Yet the society still remains unchanged.There are so many pressure facing almost 75% of men in Lagos with home problems,after closing from the office,their hot-like-fire wives who will never make the house conducive for them without considering the impact of the attitude on the children are already waiting for them.Considering this and for the protection of their personality, most men are found outside to wipe away stress after work and keep late to allow the hot women to sleep before coming home. Let’s be frank,RELAXING in the Nude club looking at these young ladies are commonly done by the rich people even some of them go there with their wives to enjoy the look. May be,Lady Amara will help focusing on the women who wouldn’t allow their husbands to see peace at home for change of attitude and our girls in higher institutions of learning to desist from parading themselves for doing anything for money because they are desperate to do more than NUDITY.

  11. Samuel Ibe

    Sister,
    You are a kingdom citizen.continue to educate the loosed men so that they will be aware of the dangers ahead of this night crawling issue.Some do not consider the hazards of been attacked by thieves on their way by late hours,what will they say they went to? I traced and read the issue of masturbation as well,he who has an ear let him hear.
    Keep fit God bless you .
    sam Ibe
    Accra-Ghana

  12. april

    Na you sabi! It takes two to tango.

  13. olatunde

    Amara you spoke well but come to think of it all these things are sign of the end times. How can a sane humanbeing appear in the nude just to entertain others, at the same time how can a rational being pay to see a lady in her birthday dress something you can watch free of charge at the bus stop or any university campus? Come to think of it the owners of these outlets are employers of labour.

  14. Amara you are working hard, keep it up! But you were attacking the men outrightly in your publication not considering the bad attitude of women that drive men away from the house. A wife that will give you a time-table on when you should meet her and sexually inactive in the home will prompt men who lack self-control to do all sorts to keep themselves going. Amara, let’s also look into the attitude of the women folk. Well done!

  15. black boy

    It really sound funny to me an old man in his 80’s in a nude club? AWESOME!!! It really show that yhe END TIME is really @ hand. GOD save us cos even Sodom & Gomora sins are not as high as the one’s we are now committing…

  16. Helyna

    True Talk Amara. The truth is, most men enjoy these things and most times their wives are more beautiful than those girls – I mean their wives at home are more sexy than those girls at the nude clubs. Women, i beg of you all try and be more accommodating and loving. Overlook so many things though it is not easy but you can try. Men! Ha! Men! why can’t you be a little caring like the first time. No more gifts, No more outing, No more romantic moves and romantic talking eyes? Why? Both men and women are wrong, but please men try and understand your partners and make that romantic moves making use of the magic words which are AM SORRY, PARDON ME, PLEASE, THANK YOU AND I STILL LOVE YOU LIKE THE FIRST TIME WE MET.

  17. omoibadan

    what do you mean by ‘wake up your tired wife for sex’?…we go to nude clubs to have dinner, they cook well in there…

  18. Bunmi Titilayo

    @ newplansng Can you please elaborate more on the club (incognito) you made mention.

    Or does anyone has the full info?

  19. Kaykay

    Hey Amara,
    You are not objective at all in your article, all the people that are commending you are being economical with the truth. It is easy to pick up pen because you are a journalist are write about the negative things in the society. But have you stop to think about it that this joints are actually adding value to the economy.
    The are exclusive joint, you don’t see their ad in the print or electronic media, even their sign posts are so inconspicuous.
    What economic value have you added to the economy. Are you an employer of labour? I don’t think so.
    Nude joints are been around before Christ.
    Government should legalize them and tax the 85% of their profit.
    And for your information the fact that you are having a time out at the joints does not make you irresponsible. It is common knowledge that people with this kind of” holier than thou attitude” like you are greater sinners.
    There is no man born of a woman that will no cheat on their wives,fiance or girl friend given the right environment and factors financial stability,time,ability to get away with it. It is part of our genetic make up.
    Finally, you are just a typical Nigerian journalist that stories from the comfort of your home and offices. I have you ever been in any of these joints? Do you have a have experience? I don’t think so.

    • jones

      Mr kaykay can u encourage ur sister if u have or ur daughter if u have to go there and u sit there watching her dancing nude

  20. Mike

    Amara I want you to know that 80% of those that read this article were hoping to see nude pictures of those girls,u disappointed them.the topic you choosed sells like purewater becuz we all love porn.let those that love nudity enjoy it & those that hate it should stay away.this things are not done in public and there is no country in the world that it does nt happen.pls next time try to add some pics ok?nigerians pretend a lot. We love you

  21. longus

    let her with no sin cast the first stone

  22. jagunlabi

    Amara, your reasoning is faulty, nude clubs and prostitution have been in existence since the days of Moses! There is no demand without supply. If a girl walks around naked, men will look.! Depsite our pretence at being morally upright, we are afterall flesh and blood. Religion and tradition give our society values which we all try to follow, but you must admit that prostitution is not called the oldest profession for nothing.
    Men like going to nude clubs to lookk at naked women! REMEMBER IF THERE WERE NO NAKED WOMEN THERE, WE WOULD NOT GO! NO DEMAND WITHOUT SUPPLY. WOMEN STOP THE NUDE DANCING AND THE NUDE CLUBS WILL NO LONGER EXIST! CHIKENA!

  23. Mallam sanusi

    bad grammer, illogical conclusions…..rubbish Nigerian backward female ideology if you can even call it that

  24. Tony O

    Dear Amara, you do not need to go to these clubs to see nude ladies. They are there on the streets everyday. Women dress these days in such a way that leaves very little to wonder. If we can accommodate all the ‘naked’ women on our roads, what is wrong in going the full length and seeing everything. Dress codes for our women, single, married, low and high places mean nothing any longer. You see top women executives who wear short and very tight dresses that is as good as naked. Most of them have their breasts hanging out almost completely out of their bras and clothes…we call these fashion. These days, women do not dress for their husbands any longer, do not keep their bodies well for their husbands….the ones who work, have other interest groups to please in the office, the ones who do business, target clients, the ones who sell…wants to sell themselves. The strippers are no prostitutes. They only show men what the men see on the streets , albeit, in full. Amara, allow the men some peace, and focus on the girls, ladies and women out there…married and single, you can hardly tell the difference……..dressings is naked.

  25. gillyville

    @kaykay
    did you read through what amara wrote? i can tell your future from this your response… ‘here lies kakay who who lived doing just about anything that made money go round, he died satisfying all his desires while making so much money’

  26. NUDE CLUBS TO SEE NAKED BODIES? EVEN THE BIBLE SAYS “FLEE” FROM TEMPTATION. YOU CANT’T STAY IN A BARBER’s SHOP LONG ENOUGH WITHOUT GETTING AN HAIR CUT. THERE IS NOTHING LIKE I AM JUST THERE TO HAVE FUN, I CAN CONTROL MYSELF. YOU WILL DEFINITELY FALL INTO IT ONE DAY.

  27. fifi

    “What will make a married man leave his office or house to go and see some naked girls?” i could think of a lot of reason and irresponsibility is not one of them. will i do it? yes. life is too stressfull not to need smth to relieve the stress

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