More Ladies Desperate For Husbands, Offer To Bankroll Wedding Expenses

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The desperation of Nigerian ladies for husbands has become alarming, P.M.NEWS investigation has revealed. Some are so desperate that they even offer to foot the wedding bill if the men agree to marry them.

Ladies like these are in desperate search for husband.

But a lot of factors have resulted in the notion that there are fewer men willing to tie the nuptial knot.

Investigation reveals that the desperate ladies, who are between 25 and 40 and have not seen any man to call their own are ready to do anything including wooing men and7 going spiritual just to get married.

Some of these ladies register with social internet sites with their photographs and data and detailing the kind of men they would want for a husband.

They also take advantage of radio phone-in programmes to give details of their height, weight, genotype, occupation, age and skin colour and the type of men they want to marry.

Latching on to this situation, match making agents are daily springing up in several parts of Lagos State.

P.M.NEWS
learnt that after successful registration, the women are directed to female seekers who also come to register for wives.

It has also been revealed that some of these women, at a stage in the pursuit of a husband,  do not care about the wealth of a man as long as the man has a vision or bright prospects.

“It does not matter if the man cannot meet this vision. All that matters is the fact that the man has plans for the future,” Mr. Victor Sunday, a marriage agent and counsellor in Lagos told P.M.NEWS.

According to Sunday, more than 40 marriage agents have opened offices in the state between last year and now.

He further told P.M.NEWS that it has become necessary for counsellors to help the ladies seeking husbands because most of them would not be bold enough to ‘toast a man’.

“You know society frowns at this. Most times, the impression some men would have of ladies who approach them for marriage is that the ladies are prostitutes. They forget to realise that just as they are human beings with emotions, so are the ladies.

“In my five years on this job, I have come to realise that 90 per cent of women admire men at a point in time but not up to five per cent of them can summon the courage to approach the man for fear of the presumed wrong signals they would be sending out,” he added.

He explained that since he began as a marriage agent, he had successfully got husbands for several women both within Lagos and other states.

But within the last two years, the demand for husbands by mature women has doubled to the extent that each week, an average of 15 women go to register with him as against the two or three that he got weekly the first two years he went into the business.

“If I get 20 people in a week, be sure that 15 would be women.

“Mine is not a religious thing. I am strictly doing it for business,” he explained while putting the total cost of registration at N10, 000 for the women, saying that this expires every four months.

The men pay half that amount for the same registration.

“If you can pay this, be ready to get a man, but the challenge would be whether the man would like you,” he added.

If the man does not like the woman, she is redirected to somebody else while another lady is sent to the man.

Akpos, a 35-year old female seeker who this reporter met in the office, said he only registered three weeks ago.

However, within this period, he has met 12 different ladies.

Thinking our reporter was on a similar mission, Akpos opened up by telling him that he is even thinking of not getting serious about marrying yet.

“Bros, this thing is sweet. Out of the 12 girls that have reached me through the agent, I have slept with five. Two even told me they would not mind even if I want them to get pregnant before we get married,” he said gleefully.

Asked how the agents operate, he said after registration, they would take the phone number of the man, which they make available to the women.

A journalist (name withheld) who met a woman in such circumstance told P.M.NEWS that the woman, the daughter of a retired Army General, offered him N2 million and promised to foot the wedding bills the first day they met..

“But I refused because the lady, based in Abuja, is 11 years older than me,” the journalist said, adding rather humorously, “why should I marry a grandmother who will boss me around at home?”

Ikem Bernice, a businessman in Ikotun while confirming that women were desperate for husbands, said it is common in churches.

“You need to see their reaction when a pastor declares that those seeking husbands would get before the year ends. I was at a vigil in my church when the pastor asked that those who desired husbands should pray for the men to be available.

“I couldn’t bear what I was hearing from a lady beside me. She mentioned a man’s name and was praying that he should forget a particular lady and concentrate on her.

“I had to stop praying and watch the ladies in the church who became uncontrollable in their prayers for husbands to come their way at all costs. It was then I knew that men are scarce.”

Reason for the desperation? An unmarried woman who only gave her name as May, posted on the internet this reason: “For us Nigerian women, there is a huge pressure to tie the knot.

“Post twenty-five annum, an unmarried status often calls for expression of concern from family, friends and sometimes even ‘kind’ strangers.

“This concern can be terribly annoying and in the case that one is single and desperately searching for a partner, distressing.”

Jerome Codjo-Onipede, who teaches about marriage through various singles programmes, said women could become desperate due to societal values that tend to have more respect for married women than single women, the thought of not being able to have children after a certain age and the need for companion.

“But she doesn’t have an excuse to stay desperate because desperation isn’t going to get her a husband,” he said.

Advising the ladies to be careful, he said a lot of men are now lazy preferring to search for a lady who is wealthy or can make money.

“It is not surprising that most ladies, today, are dating guys that are six to 13 years younger than them. It may be ridiculous but not for those who indulge in it.

“As a personal counsellor, I know the dangers this so-called remedy poses but that is what happens when we try to find solutions to our predicaments without dealing with the original problem from the root,” he said.

—Eromosele Ebhomele

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number of this girls who indulge in prostitution,we begin to wonder,some of this girls even work,some are bankers,students,business women,some even work in companies,but when you go to the night clubs you see this ladies,parading and looking for men to have sex with for money.People whom during the day,you’ll never believe are into such act,some dont go to clubs but are worse than prostitutes in the street,with uncountable number of sex partners,and are readily available when you come across them anytime.This is very bad,and this contribute’s to the fear we men have,we’re affraid not to make a mistake by marrying women whom will cause us regret,no man wants to marry a prostitute for fear of what will happen in their matrimonial home.Also some of this women character wise are nothing to write home about,some girls cant even cook,they dont know how to tidy a home where they live.They have very terrible behaviours,nagging,quarrelling,fighting and disrespect to men who they come across,no man will want you like that.(they say a woman can hide her character for years until she gets a husband)But when you see a girl who you have’nt gone to the alter with,with such bad character,its a very clear sign for you to run away.Most men die in silent in their homes of high blood pressure,because they married a bad wife,nobody want to get married to a woman he’ll later regret getting married to.And nobody want to get married and die young as a result of getting married,some married men today cant go back home for fear of their wives after work,they end up in beer palours until late in the night before they go home to sleep and wake up early the next morning to leave the house.So i believe women need counselling,in their churches or religious places,and from their young age by their parents.So that their future will be ok,the joy of everyman is to get married to a wonderful wife,loving,caring and well behaved.Every man on earth wants that,but 85% of men out there are scared.Because the mentality and society of women out there are dispeakable,today we see women having numerous boyfriends and bragging about it to their mates,do you think those men are fools,they know,but they dont tell you,they just want sex and thats all.Every man likes sex,but thats not a guarantee that they’ll marry you.Thats why married men look for young girls to sleep with,not because their wive’s are not there,but because young girls out there nowadays do wonders in bed.And the funny thing is with another womans husband,why not get yours and do those things with the guy.Another thing which women really need to know is that guys are very tricky,dont be tricked to rush into bed with a guy because you want to get married,try to know this guy and know if you can really marry him,you might rush into a marriage because you want to get married,after some years you begin to regret and findout you dont love him,this is because you didnt bother to look before you leaped.So you ran into a wrong bus going a different direction.So my advise to you girls out there look before you get married to any guy,even before you start dating.Dont be carried away by material things,money,houses,cars all this things come when there’s joy,love and happiness in a home,some people even have money but dont have a happy home.We are africans we should stop copying the white mans way of life,in the western world women dont care,alot of them prefer been single all the rest of their lives,some couples even dont want to have children,they remove the woman womb so that they dont have children.In africa nigeria if you get married and after 2years you still dont have a child,you know what that means,you’ll be under too much pressure,so we’re different culturally and traditionally.And should maintain our cultural heritage.So ladies,1st help yourselves by changing for the better,and a spiritual counselling and advise is needed.Look for a good church and begin to attend,and dont go to wrong spiritualist who will have sex with you and promise you marriage to a wonderful man,it doesnt work.Even if you get married,the marriages do not last.

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  43. PRINCE ADETULE, writes from USA

    Weding expenses is not the issue in marriage, Infact it has nothing to do with the real issues at all. You can marry without society feri feri. what of the characters and how to manage the HOME. Are those in the pictures looking for husbands, if yes let them go and dress properly not opening up their chests like two football fields joining together.

    Resonable men (bachelors) are trilled and drilled with wel-dressed ladies not half naked ladies.

    I wish our women best of luck.

  44. Adejare tokunbo

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  47. tola ibrahim

    God help us all, most especially we (Men) amen. Desperation breeds destruction.

  48. obedience

    please hook me up with any of them please

  49. Adewale Kazeem

    i am wale self employed and i just read your story about female looking for a man for a serious relationship,can you please link me up with any of those ladies or send me a phone number of Mr Victor Sunday so that i can get register too,i can be reach on my phone number 08024701122.. thank you so much and i will be glad if i can get this number fast on my phone

  50. stanley azuka ifediora

    am i simple n eazy goin guy

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